The One About Codependent Behaviour

Meet Jo Westwood.

Jo is a life coach and author, known for her fun, real, no bs approach to helping you improve your life. She specialises in helping women escape from codependency, reclaim their lives with confidence and live Lovingly Fierce.
Her online codependence recovery course is available now at and you can find her on instagram too - @jowestwood

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Adulting means knowing who I am, and that’s not a static thing”
“Human nature is so fascinating - we’re so weird!”
“I can’t change anyone else’s behaviour, but I can change the dynamic between us by changing me behaviour”
“I used to see people who were in healthy relationships and I used to think it was fake!”
“We’re not meant to do this alone. We’re meant to connect with people in a healthy way”
“It’s fucking terrifying to let go of needing and being needed”

In this episode we talk about:

  • Why we’re terrified of saying what we really want and need.
  • The difference between misfits, rebels and mavericks
  • How it’s human nature to want to ‘fit in’, and how this affects our relationships
  • Why if you are an adult who can take care of yourself and can put a roof over your head and have experienced an abusive relationship, you have played into that dynamic in some way, and why it’s important to take ownership of that.

Plus, we talk about how it’s important to put your own needs first, because if you can’t fulfil your own needs, you won’t attract people who can fill your needs either.



**"Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

**Don't forget, my LIVE 100th episode of Adulting with Ebonie is happening this October in Bristol - you can book your ticket here 

**I'm proud to be an affiliate of Jo Westwood's 'Lovingly Fierce' course - find out more here.

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About the author, Ebonie

Ebonie is the go-to Coach for Misfits and Mavens. She’s the positively disruptive creator of The Misfit to Maven Way, The Value Filter™ system and author of ‘Misfit to Maven: From ARGH to AHHH.’

She dedicates her days to inspiring and enabling people who have forgotten who they really are to feel less ARGH!! and more AHHH!!!

It is her mission to help you live a fully rounded, three-dimensional, successful and self-governed life where you can thrive.

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